What People are Saying
“What do we do with the problem of suffering? This perennial question is addressed with wisdom and brilliance by Gray Connors, who has dedicated her life to helping others see the value of every single life, no matter their struggles. A must-read for anyone who hopes to make our world better and more loving.”
—Lila Rose, Founder and President of Live Action, Author of Fighting for Life
“For all of human history, we’ve used stories to teach the most important lessons in life. In this tradition, Gray Connors uses stories to help us grasp that the burden of suffering is to be shared by friends, that all life is to be cherished, and that this is the only truly humane way for us to accompany those crushed by the travails of life.”
—Curtis Martin, FOCUS Founder
“Stephanie Gray Connors provides a refreshing contribution to what has become a messy debate. She wastes no time in getting to the point: this is not about assisted suicide itself, or even death, but the fear of meaningless suffering. In her clear and approachable way, she shows the reader how it is reasonable and possible to suffer well, finding strength and joy in the unexpected places of vulnerability and human limitations—things we already have in plenty. Far from being an idealistic theoretician, Stephanie uses both logic and examples of ordinary persons who have created extraordinary life and love—not in spite of but out of their own suffering. There is much more that could be said about this gem of a book! Stephanie has that rare gift of common sense, which is so uncommon in fact, and this was, although sometimes painful, a most rewarding read.”
—Thomas J. Olmsted, Bishop of Phoenix
“Stephanie Gray Connors’ compassionate tone and intellect make her one of today’s best defenders of pre-born human life. That’s why I’m so glad she’s taken these gifts and applied to them to a sadly neglected subject in pro-life apologetics: the defense of the elderly, terminally ill, and people with disabilities from assisted suicide and euthanasia. If you want to have a ‘road-map’ for approaching this subject, then I highly recommend this outstanding work by one of the world’s best pro-life advocates.”
—Trent Horn, apologist and author of Persuasive Pro-life
“Stephanie Gray Connors has long been one of the clearest, sharpest, most winsome pro-life advocates in the world, mostly for her work debating abortion. In this excellent new book, she applies those same gifts to the topic of assisted suicide. The book’s strong, pithy principles—such as ‘we should alleviate suffering without eliminating the sufferer’—offer ways to reframe the debate, and each principle is illustrated by moving stories. But this is more than a book on ethics or apologetics. It adds profound reflections on the meaning of suffering, and how to find hope and purpose even in the darkest circumstances of life. If every person read this book, the culture of life would flourish. We’d stop assisting suicides, and start celebrating the beauty and significance of all lives, especially those who suffer greatly.”
—Brandon Vogt, Founder of ClaritasU and Senior Publishing Director at Word on Fire Catholic Ministries
Table of Contents
Series Introduction
Introduction
Chapter 1: Start by Asking “What?”
Chapter 2: If Humans Are Equal, We All Ought to Get Suicide Prevention
Chapter 3: Suffering Unleashes Love
Chapter 4: We Can Alleviate Suffering without Eliminating Sufferers
Chapter 5: Human Dignity Is Unconditional
Chapter 6: Human Flourishing Occurs in a Context of Connection
Chapter 7: We Ought to Celebrate Being
Chapter 8: Some of the Best Things in Life Come When We Release Control
Chapter 9: Not All Choices Are Equal, But They Create a Ripple Effect Either Way
Chapter 10: Beauty and Creativity Are Transformative
Epilogue
Notes